Hi Dad….I have issues!


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I had an epiphany recently, one that shouldn’t have taken me so long to realize but it is what it is, right?

I‘ve always been very open and vocal with my issues regarding my father and his lack of attentiveness once I hit puberty. I came to understand that he made choices about what he considered was a priority in his life and I wasn’t one of them. Its fine, I’m over that. What I didn’t realize was how it would affect me once I became a parent. Continue reading “Hi Dad….I have issues!”

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My Favorite Girl


I noticed that it’s been a while since I talked about my favorite girl.

For those that follow me or have enjoyed my posts on being a first time parent this is for you!

Shit is happening fast!

That’s the first thing that pops into my head. Two months ago she was still an infant, that is no longer the case! In two short months my baby left and this toddler took her place! How did that happen?!?! Continue reading “My Favorite Girl”

#TakeItPersonal?!?


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Have people always taken everything so personal?

Is this really a 21st century mentality?

I’ve noticed more and more than conversation and debate with people who think differently from you is becoming nearly impossible. When you get deep into the topic and become passionate people are quick to assume that passion is directed at them and not at the topic at hand.

I’m guilty of it myself. There are times I start to feel that the person I’m interacting with has turned the conversation into a personal attack.

The topic is dropped and the focus becomes changing my mind. Not broadening my view but making me understand that my views are wrong and that I need to change them.

In this, I hope I am not guilty. I never set out to change other people’s beliefs, values or ideals. I simply want to provide more knowledge. I believe that we can only grow and evolve through experience and shared knowledge.

In order to understand and respect others we all need to be able to listen. More often than not we hear words but are so busy waiting to respond we fail to acknowledge others.

I know I’m getting pretty deep but that’s where I’m at lately. I’m inside my head most the day, thinking and looking for ways to grow. Once I’m home I’m interacting with my daughter and hoping that I’m instilling positive qualities in her, despite the fact that she’s a year old and just wants to play.

I’m done with being meek around those who make me uncomfortable, I’m turning the tables. I will no longer be intimated by people who want to bully me into their ideals. I will assert my power and knowledge.

Go be a victim somewhere else…


I really try to accept everyone for who they are, I really do. But when a person plays the role of constant victim or the perpetual martyr I’m become enraged.

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I have no empathy, sympathy or tolerance for it. Continue reading “Go be a victim somewhere else…”