I’ve struggled with whether or not I wanted to write this particular post.
I decided to write it because it won’t leave my brain. It’s constantly in there turning round and round. I’m trying to see it from a non-personal or emotion stand-point and that’s just isn’t happening.
So around the beginning of April I wrote a post about Nursemaid’s Elbow. It was not something I had ever heard of until I was faced with it. It’s so uncommon a term that most people had no idea what I was talking about. They had experienced it but didn’t have a name for it. Thanks Google and Mommy Bloggers!
Anyways, I was surprised and shocked by how little it was discussed, especially since it is very common, so I submitted my story to Scary Mommy in the hopes of making it a public discussion and to let others know that it was common and easily fixable.
I got the email telling me that if I didn’t hear from Scary Mommy within 7 days that it meant they decided not to publish the article. 7 days passed and nothing…*insert the saddest emoji ever!* but I held my head high and told myself not to worry. To keep writing and submitting and at some point I would get an approval.
I kept this mind frame until the beginning of May. It was at that time that a friend tagged me in a Scary Mommy post. The post was about Nursemaid’s Elbow! What a surprise, a shock then full blown anger! They rejected my submission but then all the sudden are writing about the same topic?!?! Is this for real? Am I being paranoid? Was it a coincidence?
I made sure I followed all the directions when it came to submitting. I’m not even upset about being rejected. I get that part, it was my first try. I expected to be rejected. I didn’t expect to see the article written two weeks later but someone else entirely.
There was nothing in the submission notes stating that they had permission to use my work and I feel like it was my work. I submitted the idea to them. I knew it would fit with their brand. My main concern now is in wondering if this was/is something that happens every day with not only Scary Mommy but other publications. How many bloggers and professionals submit their work, only to be rejected, and then see said publication publishing the same damn topic?
I’m not going to lie. This experience has jaded me. Granted, it could all be in my head but I don’t think that’s the case. I think that my idea was taken. Someone more commonly used on Scary Mommy was given the task to write about something that they knew was a good idea.
I’ve since unfollowed Scary Mommy on all social media. I can’t read, browse or enjoy anything they produce without thinking of how they operate. That’s not to say they aren’t good to the people that work for them but my experience has left me feeling that some practices lurk in the unethical realm.
Even now, as I write this and edit I’m fearful of posting. Will there be backlash? Will I be told to suck it up? Will this just be another post that few read? The answer is YES and that’s ok. Now that I have purged my brain of these circling thoughts I am able to move forward and continue on my journey.